Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Hello BloogerVille

You may know me as Aim from Random Thoughts.  Things in my world have been pretty crazy and I thought maybe by sharing with you I would 1) release some tension and 2) help somebody else who is going through similar situations.

So, I won't bore you with the whole story all at once, but I will give you a quick run down and fill in the details later. 

April 2009 - my husband, after a night of drinking with the boys/guys/losers came home and ended up sitting on my daughter and when she tried to push him off, he pushed her back down - repeatedly.  He was trying to make her "listen" and called it "discipline".  I called it crazy and scary but I was too controlled to get out right away.
May 2009 - my husband, again after drinking, tried to pick my daughter up from her bed by her sweatshirt.  He ended up pulling out her earring (newly pierced) and made her bleed.
October 2009 - we faught because my daughter "talked back" to him and he was mad because I, being closest to her, did not smack her across the face.  I made the decision this night that I was getting out. Out of the house and out of the married and out from under his control.
January 2010 - a plan is in place for me to move myself and the girls out.  The move is days away.  He came home and told me there were going to be two new "family" rules.  One was that I was no longer allowed to do dishes because the girls could do them and two was that if I wasn't going to give him a kiss and a hug every morning before I got out of bed, then we were going to get a divorce.  Since he did not know of my plan to leave, even though we had been fighting for months, I said "okay"...and did a little happy dance in my head.
January 2010 - I took my daughter to the doctor to see about getting her on some meds.  She had been cutting herself, seemed to be depressed and just overall was not happy.  Instead of getting meds, she was admitted to the hospital.  That was Monday.  On Saturday I moved out while he was out of town.
May 2010 - I finally scrapped up enough money to see a lawyer and file for divorce.

Now it is November 2011 and we still aren't divorce.  Hopefully soon, but he has come up with all kinds of ways to drag it out.  One of which is that he refused to respond to letters from my lawyer to his.  Another is that he thinks I should have given him a second chance.  And he continues to harass me about the break up and the kids and how they treat him, etc on a regular basis.

In this blog I will be sharing some of my stories and keeping you updated on how the kids and I are doing.  Feel free to follow along.....